Medical Emancipation

"'Not quite," I (Campbell) say. "We're representing her. I need to dictate a petition for medical emancipation, so that you can file it with the family court by tomorrow."
"Get out! You're representing her?"" (pg 24)

In the beginning of the book, younger sister Anna ventures into Campbell Alexander's law office to request his help to sue her parents for the rights to her own body. Although I knew what this book was about before I started reading it, this whole concept is so alien to me. I couldn't imagine going against my ill sister and my entire family to prove a point. I understand that Anna has been put through many intense medical procedures and that she believes that donating a kidney is crossing the line, but it takes an exceptional amount of courage and stubbornness to put your resistance into action. The surgery required to donate a kidney is major; Anna's life would forever be different and Kate might not even survive the procedure.

Being that I have gone through major surgery before, I can relate to her feelings of resilience; it's scary and painful, and I can understand wanting very much to avoid it. But to Anna, her lawsuit is more than avoiding surgery. Her family life is twisted by her sister's illness, and she feels like she is seen as a resource by her parents rather than a normal child. She reacts by hiring lawyer Campbell, and petitions for medical emancipation from her parents, so that she will be able to made her own decisions regarding her medical treatment and the donation of her kidney. Anna's mother, Sara, is an ex-lawyer and decides to represent herself and her husband in the lawsuit. Over the course of the novel, she tries on several occasions to make Anna drop the lawsuit. Anna refuses to do so, but the resulting tension between her and her mother result in her moving out of the house to live with her father Brian in the fire station where he works.

Anna definitely makes a difference in her life and the life of her parents and siblings, but I don't believe it is a good difference. I can appreciate her courage, but part of me is convinced that she is mostly stubborn and obstinate. Frankly, I just don't think its worth it. She ostracizes her family in the hopes to have the rights to her body that she would have anyway when she is 18! She has wanted her parents to treat her equally, but now with this show, her parents will not think the same of her. They might think back to how they might have caused this, but at the same time, they are still losing their oldest daughter. In fact, they are losing all three of their children; Anna is standing up to them, Kate is dying, and Jesse is just a wreck. 

Anna is indeed one person making a difference, but I don't agree that it is the total right thing to do.

Family Dynamics

My Sister's Keeper is a powerful story that deals with a family tragedy and describes how the different members of the family are affected by it. More specifically, it is a story about a girl with a serious illness (APL), and the impact her leukemia has on her family. 

Sixteen-year-old Kate was diagnosed with Acute Promyelocytic Leukemia when she was two, and when her parents heard news that she would only have a 23% chance of survival, they took whatever measures were necessary in order to save their child. Those extreme measures resulted in the birth of Anna, a genetically engineered little sister, who's purpose is to be an exact match for her older sister in order to donate blood and anything else that is required. Over the course of 13 years, Anna is forced to undergo multiple medical procedures to keep her sister alive. 

More info on APL - http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/pdq/treatment/childAML/HealthProfessional/page7

http://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/acute-promyelocytic-leukemia

Kate's leukemia has a profound effect on her family, and this is one of the main themes in the book. 

Although the Fitzgerald's are all part of one family, but they cannot get along as a unit. Kate is very sick, and is constantly struggling to stay alive and try to live her life, Sara, the mother, remains as strong as she can and is willing to do anything in order to save her daughter, even if that means risking the happiness of the rest of the family. Brian, the father, is quiet but attentive, and uses his job as a firefighter to escape and distract himself from the family life. Anna, the younger sister and main character, battles with herself and her family to be her own person and what she believes is right and wrong. Anna truly loves Kate, and really wants Kate to get better, but she feels as though only one of them can live, and she feels as though it is her turn. Jesse, the older brother, constantly rebels against his family and against the law in order to distract himself of the tragedy of his home life. 

""Don't mess with the system, Anna," he (Jesse) says bitterly. "We've all got our scripts down pat. Kate plays the Martyr. I'm the Lost Cause. And you, you're the Peacekeeper."" (pg 15)

The parents, Sara and Brian, are being pulled every which-way -- trying to save their dying daughter, yet they want to pay attention to all of their children and give them a normal life. In this situation, I can understand how the parents struggle with their roles, and feel like they have to pick who to love or who to care for and give 100% to. The obvious choice is Kate, because of her illness, but they are blinded by Jesse's reckless behavior and Anna's anger, concern and her feeling of being used and not cared for. Near the beginning of the book, Anna decides to sell her favorite necklace in order to help pay for s lawyer, and only her father notices that she is acting strangely. Her mother is too consumed with caring for Kate to see deeply into the lives of her other children. 

I am very interested to see how the family dynamic changes and develops as the story continues. 

How to Change the World

Can one person change the world?

We always wonder if our actions in our life will make a difference in the world. I was watching the TV show House the other day and they were treating a retired cancer researcher, who left her job to pursue happiness. She was asking her doctor if he were happy, and he talked about that on his death bed, he wanted to look back on his life and feel like he made a difference, and she responded that the day you die is only one day, and you should focus on doing things that are worthwhile all the other days in your life. This scene reminded me of The Help, as well as this blog prompt.

It is easy to argue that everything you do affects and changes the world, or that the world never changes, no matter what you, the world won't change. I believe that we can change the world by doing good things in our every day lives. By random acts of kindness, or by devoting to and loving other people, and thus making a difference in their lives.

Aibileen is making a difference in the way the cares for Mae Mobley. She is raising Mae in her image, and working hard every day to make sure that she gets the love and affection she needs in order to grow into a kind individual. She is making a difference in the way that Mae will see and feel about African American people, and that means a lot during that time period. Aibileen hopes that when Mae grows up that she will not be as racist and indifferent as her mother. She wants Mae to care about other people and the things that are important, instead of being insecure and petty like her mother.
By making a difference in Mae's life, and also in the lives of those around her, Aibileen is changing the world.

True Hero

A hero or heroine refers to characters who, in the face of danger and adversity or from a position of weakness, display courage and the will for self-sacrifice—that is, heroism—for some greater good of all humanity.

Being a hero, or heroine, is something that I believe every person strives for, whether they know it or not. People want to do good, distinguish themselves from the crowd, and be role models for others. It is said that it is our actions that make us heros, actions such as standing up for someone in need or remaining strong in the face of danger. 

The first thing when comes to mind when thinking about heros, are super heros. My youngest brother is really into watching a show called Young Justice, where the sidekicks and younger heros help to save the world along side the more famous, adult heros. These young heros include Kid Flash, Robin, Aqua Lad, and others. But these fictitious beings with superpowers aren't the heros in real life, but I definitely think that they help to teach kids about being brave and having a drive to do good, but also allude to the real life heroic figures, such as policemen, firemen, doctors, etc. The number one heros in most childrens' lives are their parents. Parents are a perfect example of true heros, being that they put the life and wellbeing of their child before that of themselves. Heros stand up for others and help to eliminate evil. 

In this video, college students from UGA talk about what they think a hero is... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zegboN3w1Dw


In the book The Help, Aibileen, an African American woman working as a housemaid and nanny for a woman names Miss Leefolt, is a true hero in the story. She decides to help a white woman named Skeeter write a book about what it was like to be a maid in Mississippi in the 1960s. She knows very well what the consequences would be if someone found out and talked, but she feels as though it could help others like her who are looked down on and cast out. Black maids in the south lived under constant fear, which is understandable during the time period, with Civil Rights movements occurring, and even some assassinations of important rights leaders, such as Medgar Evers. 
(Info on Medgar Evers http://www.biography.com/people/medgar-evers-9542324#early-life&awesm=~oDDiHikYDNzJHY)

Aibileen is able to see past Skeeter's book, and into the big picture. A breakthrough like this could expose the lives that African Americans led in the south during the time period, and in turn create a movement that would improve the lives of many people. She puts the good of others before herself, and takes risks for the greater good, all signs of a true hero. 

What Makes a Good Parent

There is no such thing as a perfect parent; good parenting can be so relative, but there are some stand-out qualities.

The most important one is unconditional love and support.

Katy Perry - Unconditionally

(seemed to fit)

In the beginning of The Help, the readers are introduced to Aibileen, a southern black woman who is the help for a young family of three. Along with cooking and cleaning, Aibileen takes care of Mae Mobley, or Baby Girl, as she calls her employer's, Miss Leefolt, baby daughter. Miss Leefolt is a first time mom, and is only 23, and has little idea of how to take care of her child. The first evidence of this fact is when Mae Mobley is a little baby and she won't stop crying. Instead of picking up and comforting her daughter, Miss Leefolt looks at the baby, terrified, and asks Aibileen, "What am I doing wrong? Why can't I stop it?". Aibileen goes to point out that by calling her daughter 'it', there had to be something wrong with the mother-daughter situation. 

This instance isn't the only one where Miss Leefolt ignores Mae Mobley. Miss Leefolt pays more attention to her bridge dates with her girlfriends and the local gossip than caring for her child. There was an instance where Miss Leefolt was talking on the phone, and Mae was trying to get her mother to pick her up and hold her, but she pulled on the phone cord and in response her mother slapped her. After Miss Leefolt struck Mae, she said, "Don't you ever touch this phone again, Mae Mobley!". She then went on to scold Aibileen for not keeping her child away from her. In response to her mother's reaction, Mae acts out by whacking Aibileen in the ear as she was working on comforting her.


Even though Aibileen lost her son, she still has compassion for children, and cares more about Miss Leefolt's daughter than she does. She loves Mae even when she acts out or cries or complains, where as Miss Leefolt ignores her and only pays attention to her when she feels like it.

Unconditional love is the single most important quality that is taken to heart by a good parent. The love should be easy, and not forced, and the mother or father should WANT to support and comfort their child no matter what, and not only when it is convenient.

Society's Drive and Impact

Society and the events that occur in a given time period are definitely the driving force behind the literature written and published at the time. Events can inspire stories and be explained through made up characters who go through the hardship. Writers can use certain events going on in the world to be a basis for a made up story, instead of using the exact event in their book. Society also drives the way a story is told and the words or phrases that are relevant at the time might be included. Specific words may be more prevalent in one time period more than another, and thus the books can be traced back to their time slots just based on the flow of words from the text. 

Realistic fiction is definitely inspired by real events taking place in our society, or maybe other societies. In the Kite Runner, the major world event taking place is the Soviet Union's invasion of Afghanistan. The Soviet Union invaded in late December of 1979 in support of the Afghan communist government in its conflict with anticommunist Muslin guerrillas during the Afghan War (1978-1992), and the troops remained in Afghanistan until February of 1989. (More information on the war and invasion: http://www.britannica.com/EBchecked/topic/1499983/Soviet-invasion-of-Afghanistan)

(pictures from the invasion of Afghanistan)

Although The Kite Runner is based around the war and invasion, the characters are not real, thus making the book realistic fiction. Realistic fiction is a very good way to talk about and explain a certain event, without needing a concrete, real-person story. The reader learns about the event through the eyes of Amir, along with his father, Baba, and for the beginning of the book, Hassan. The book brings into play many things that were relevant during the period, especially with the part of the story about coming to America. 'Coming to America' stories have always been very popular with Americans, mostly because it brings the text 'home', where we can relate and understand it better. Its all dandy when the story takes place somewhere out of our grasp, but we can't internalize it as well as we can if the story takes place, even for a little while, in America. Amir and Baba's American story is like many others'. Adjusting is very tough, and sometimes "the land of the free" doesn't feel so free. But America is a place of dreams, and for Amir, that means that he can be able to bury his past pretty well, at least until his father past away. 

It is evident in this book, as well as many others, that society of the time period plays a major role in the books produced in the time frame. The way the writers write have to mirror the way people talk at the time and the events should match the ones that are prevalent to the modern day person. 

Liberate or Heartbreak

Moving can be both liberating and heartbreaking. You are offered a completely clean slate and a chance to to ally remake yourself with knew people, but you are also taken away from everything you know; your house, your friends, and your town. Moving countries is more than twice as hard.

When my father was considering college in his late teen years, he decided that instead of staying in Greece to be educated, he would go with his older brother to New York City. It was a completely new world. Although he had taken english language classes in high school, speaking it with real life people was a completely different ball game. He struggled to speak to people at his school, and became friends with other Greek immigrants, being that he felt the most comfortable with them. It took him a couple years before he branched out and became more involved in the American people/lifestyle.

My father's story sounds a lot like Amir and Baba's. They moved to American to get away from their deteriorating life in Afghanistan, and to get a fresh start somewhere where they were safe and free. Although my father didn't come to escape his country, both my dad and Baba struggled with the differences in culture, and opted to stay around people he was use to. They both made friends with others from their home country. Baba found his place in the Afghan flea market, and wasn't interested in learning better English or making American friends. He missed his country and his old life dearly.

For Amir, American was a place where he could be free of oppression, but also of his past and memories. He could remake himself, and he took the chance and was more involved in American life than his father. He went and graduated from high school, and learned a great deal more English than his father.

Moving is tough, and it is said that it takes people four years to truly adjust to their new home. It is hard to put yourself out there to people you have never met before, but once you learn what it takes, you feel more and more comfortable as time goes on.